Sometimes we accept the worst solution because we can't have the best. But the better thing is available and right in front of us. You decline $40,000 because you can't have $80,000. Because you can't save $20, you end up spending $30. You might stay up too late, and instead of going to bed, you… Continue reading Good Enough
Recently, I've been learning how to laugh at myself and my life. A few weeks ago, I hit a deer. While on a deer hunt. In a new-to-us minivan that we had literally just replaced the brakes and tires in a few days before. It was so completely unfortunate that I found it hilarious. A… Continue reading Humor in Misfortunes
Have you ever said that you were sorry when you didn't actually do anything wrong? I have. Sometimes I find myself constantly apologize for myself, as if I was a constant inconvenience and never doing as well I need to. Apologizing can be necessary and a really good thing to do. Saying I'm sorry when… Continue reading Guilt and Apology: Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
The first year of homeschooling was difficult for me. It did not always go well. We had some amazing days, but at the end of it, I just felt like a failure. (I wasn't a failure, though. My sister challenged me about why I felt I had failed, and I had to reframe it in… Continue reading Progress
I read a few articles lately about people leaving their 9-to-5 jobs in order to live the life of their dreams. And it sounds like a good story. It makes me question for a minute: would I be happy if we were financially independent and self-employed in some creative task? I think the answer is… Continue reading Challenge the voices you hear
I've been happier lately, and part of the reason is because I stopped shaming myself for not being perfect. I dealt with a lot of shame in my life, feeling that I was never quite good enough: I never did enough when I was homeschooling. I never kept my house clean enough. I never balanced… Continue reading Balance of shame and pride
Sometimes I feel silly putting things like time with my husband and kids on my to-do list. It's important. But it's not urgent. And it's not something that I just check off and I'm done with it. It's important and ongoing. But when I start putting the important things on my to do list, I… Continue reading The important things on your to do list.
Today I was a bit angry and I said, "I never get time for myself!" That is a lie. I get plenty of time for myself. I take classes, I exercise, I read a lot, I go to book club. I enjoy cooking and hiking and I get to watch the movies I like. I… Continue reading Selfishness and Happiness