Marriage isn't about true love. It's not about finding the perfect person. It's about finding someone who has potential and a person we can grow with and improve. It's okay to marry someone with different strengths and weaknesses, even if some other people might feel that they are marrying up or down. Sometimes we just… Continue reading The Lie of Happily Ever After
Praise
I have never been praised for my singing voice, except for some mild positive comments. I view this as an entirely good thing. You see, when we get praised for something, particularly when we are young, we may start to build up our self-imagine around that thing. It becomes part of who we are. But… Continue reading Praise
Things that have helped me through doubt
Remembering good experiences Relying on my heritage and the faith of others Remembering what faith and hope is Continuing to obey the commandments Writing things down Doubt my doubts Realizing I don't have to have all the answers Embracing questions Serving others Seeking the wisdom of God Relying on love Knowing God loves me Priesthood… Continue reading Things that have helped me through doubt
Seeking help
Often I have pleaded for help from God, but I have often been too proud, too ashamed of my struggles, to reach out to help for others. The other day, I was dealing with a difficulty in my own life and I wanted better solutions. Though I had prayed, fasted, and talked with my husband,… Continue reading Seeking help
dichotomies of life
Sometimes I have a difficult time staying happy. Sometimes I am really happy and I feel blessed and life is so very good. And then other moments, I feel like I'm falling into a hole of melancholy where nothing seems quite right. Some of this is related to being a mother. It's emotionally draining. And there… Continue reading dichotomies of life
One-liners to think about
Children are not problems to solve, but people with problems. Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content (Phillipians 4:11). You can live with your emotions no matter how intense; what you can't do is live without them. When you want to… Continue reading One-liners to think about
Decisions
Sometimes the things you value will conflict, so you have to choose between them. And it's hard sometimes. I've been super indecisive lately, a lot because I really am not sure where I am heading in life. It's also because I really value taking care of my children. But I also value my own personal… Continue reading Decisions
What Life Is
We all have our idea of what life should look like. We're never quite sure where this ideal comes from, but maybe a combination of a lot of things: our childhood, our values, television, social media, the lives of others, etc. Life should be happy. We should be able to live in a clean, single-family house… Continue reading What Life Is
Six thoughts
I've had quite a bit of technology problems lately: I locked myself out of my phone and ended up resetting it; my computer blew up with electrical problems; and a whole bunch of files on my website randomly disappeared. Conclusions: keep good backups of all your stuff. In multiple ways. I like to have things… Continue reading Six thoughts
Levels of conversion: scripture study and going in the right direction
A seven-year-old girl is beginning to read scriptures for the first time. She believes they are true. She knows some stories and she doesn't understand all the words, but she keeps trying. A man has read the scriptures before, but struggles to do it on a daily basis. He believes they are true and is… Continue reading Levels of conversion: scripture study and going in the right direction