Confidence and humility are not opposites: they are the same thing. When I am feeling proud, I want to be better than everyone else. I want to pull people down in order to lift myself up. I can place a lot enmity between myself and other people: Sometimes I want what another person has. Sometimes… Continue reading On Confidence and Humility
In 2018, I put a book I had written (One Thing is Needful) in a figurative drawer and thought I would never look at again. But in 2020, I got it out again and started working on it. Two years later, I've basically finished it. I'm working on sharing it more soon. I try to… Continue reading The Right Time
I don't like to run. I did track in junior high, and my best event was the 400 meter, which is a horrible event. You have to run fast and long. (It is slightly better than the 800 meter.) I wasn't fast. And I don't like going on long runs. The longest I have ever… Continue reading Running as fast as I can
I hate the fact that I deal with mental health struggles. I want to just be fine. I want my brain to work well every day. And sometimes it does. Sometimes we really get along, and my brain can make decisions and respond appropriately and think clearly and regulate my emotions. But sometimes there is… Continue reading Elephant on my brain
I recently went to a writer's conference, and I sat in quite a few panels and classes. At one panel, we were told all about figuring out your audience and being aware of them as you write and market a book. At the next panel, we were told to be ourselves and to not worry… Continue reading Performing yourself
I wonder if I've been busy, but not really. I have things on my to-do list, but not many deadlines. I take my kids back and forth to activities--basketball, library, coding. My afternoons and evenings sometimes have more going on, but my mornings and afternoons can be empty. I finished coaching a basketball team with… Continue reading Life Lately
There will always be an endless list of stuff you can do better. But the most important things is small improvements and not giving up. If you don't give up, you will succeed in life and you will be okay. You do not need anyone's permission to value yourself. You do not need to satisfy… Continue reading Encourage
I get distracted easily and sometimes I have a hard time focusing on the right thing. But as I was sucked down rabbit holes and wasting my time the other day, I realized that I don't need to stop getting distracted. Not getting distracted is not a good goal to have. Because I will get… Continue reading Distractions
I am not a problem to be fixed.Life is not a problem to be fixed. I have been repeating those mantras to myself lately. Sometimes, I think of myself as broken and I want to fix myself. But I am not broken, and I don't need to fix myself. I have problems and struggles--sometimes I… Continue reading I am not a problem.
I hate making mistakes. But in a way, mistakes are really awesome. Sometimes accepting mistakes are the only way we get anything done in life. I have to make mistakes to learn how to do anything. If I'm going to play a piano song, I have to try it out and make mistakes. If I'm… Continue reading Mistakes
Heather W. Hoyt 