Rituals are really helpful in order to express love. We love our children and our spouse and our family, but often we just think expressions of love will happen naturally and spontaneously. They don’t. We have to plan it a bit.
Love means that we always kiss each other good night. Or that we tuck kids into bed and sing them a song. Or we call our moms every Wednesday. Or that we make take time to wrestle every day at 4:00. Or we cuddle every evening. Or we end conversations with, “I love you.”
Everyone wants something dependable and safe, and creating rituals of love can be so helpful in feeling more loved and showing that love more often.
Two days ago, I watched a video on YouTube by Jordan Page about a block schedule productivity system. I’m always looking for better ways to manage my life, and this one wasn’t entirely unique, but yet it was just what I needed at the time.
She basically separates her days into a few large blocks, with a timer on the phone to tell her when it’s the next block. I really liked it because instead of using lots of small blocks of time, it was a few big blocks of time, generally categorized but flexible and not too specific. And it was pretty much what I was already doing, but just a slight improvement on it.
For me, I came up with the following blocks:
- Morning (6-9). Wake-up, scriptures, prayers, mental health, exercise, family scripture study, breakfast, showers, kids ready, cleaning, home projects.
- Learning (9-12). Homeschool and playing with kids.
- Lunch (12-1). Lunch and clean up.
- Projects (1-3). The kids watch movies or play. I work on school, blogging, and other projects.
- Family/errands (3-5). Time to play outside, go and do things, etc.
- Dinner (5-7). Dinner, clean up, and whatever.
- Bed time (7-8). Tubs, stories, bed.
- Evening (8-10). I catch up on projects and spend time with my husband.
- Sleep (10-6).
It’s pretty easy. What was super helpful to me was I organizing my to-do list by block. It sort of just made things fall into place more. Instead of thinking what I needed to get done, I was planning on when I was doing it and then not worrying quite as much.