Rituals are really helpful in order to express love. We love our children and our spouse and our family, but often we just think expressions of love will happen naturally and spontaneously. They don't. We have to plan it a bit. Love means that we always kiss each other good night. Or that we tuck… Continue reading Recent life hacks
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Gratitude, Fear, and Perspective
Having less often means that you are more grateful. Isn't that silly? I just heard Brene Brown talk about how when we are really happy and things are going really well, we usually are expecting something horrible to happen. We don't let ourselves feel joy. We don't let ourselves be truly grateful for the absolutely… Continue reading Gratitude, Fear, and Perspective
The Lie of Happily Ever After
Marriage isn't about true love. It's not about finding the perfect person. It's about finding someone who has potential and a person we can grow with and improve. It's okay to marry someone with different strengths and weaknesses, even if some other people might feel that they are marrying up or down. Sometimes we just… Continue reading The Lie of Happily Ever After
Things that have helped me through doubt
Remembering good experiences Relying on my heritage and the faith of others Remembering what faith and hope is Continuing to obey the commandments Writing things down Doubt my doubts Realizing I don't have to have all the answers Embracing questions Serving others Seeking the wisdom of God Relying on love Knowing God loves me Priesthood… Continue reading Things that have helped me through doubt
dichotomies of life
Sometimes I have a difficult time staying happy. Sometimes I am really happy and I feel blessed and life is so very good. And then other moments, I feel like I'm falling into a hole of melancholy where nothing seems quite right. Some of this is related to being a mother. It's emotionally draining. And there… Continue reading dichotomies of life
One-liners to think about
Children are not problems to solve, but people with problems. Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content (Phillipians 4:11). You can live with your emotions no matter how intense; what you can't do is live without them. When you want to… Continue reading One-liners to think about
Six thoughts
I've had quite a bit of technology problems lately: I locked myself out of my phone and ended up resetting it; my computer blew up with electrical problems; and a whole bunch of files on my website randomly disappeared. Conclusions: keep good backups of all your stuff. In multiple ways. I like to have things… Continue reading Six thoughts
Accepting the unfinished
It's okay to let things be, even though they are unfinished and incomplete. I have written books that will only exist in computer files, rough and unread. I have made plans for houses that I will never live in again. I have started learning, only to forget. Incomplete. Unfinished. Wanting. Imperfect. Partial. Lacking. Fragments. Inadequate. Deficient.… Continue reading Accepting the unfinished
so much
I keep writing and the words are difficult to express. Life is so much bigger than I ever imagined. It is filled with so much more joy, sorrow, questions, answers, doubt, and faith. It is so much more complicated sometimes, and yet in other moments it seems so incredibly simple. When I moved to our… Continue reading so much
home
I am home. It will never really be my home--it belongs to more than me. My Grandpa built this house, and it is a house that has to be loved in order for it to continue to exist. I do love it: when I wake up and look across to the golden hillside in the… Continue reading home