In church one day, I heard a woman say that quality time mattered more than quantity time. My mom happened to be visiting, and whispered to me that quantity time definitely still mattered. I was looking at a journal entry when I had little tiny kids, and I wrote that I found it very difficult… Continue reading Quality and Quantity Time With Your Kids
I don't like to run. I did track in junior high, and my best event was the 400 meter, which is a horrible event. You have to run fast and long. (It is slightly better than the 800 meter.) I wasn't fast. And I don't like going on long runs. The longest I have ever… Continue reading Running as fast as I can
Quality time is importantQuantity time is more importantListenWatch and noticeWork togetherGo on an adventureShare what I loveRead booksPlayLaughBe sillyRoughhouseSing and danceGo outsideTeach
Parenting is a concept where we act in order to have results. We parent our children so that they can go to bed, do well in school, act in certain ways, and think how we want them to think. But what if we switch from parenting our children to being a loving parent? Instead of… Continue reading Being a Parent
This started with the book 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. One of his rules is, "Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them." He goes on to say that we should discipline our children and teach them social norms. He says: Because children, like other human beings, are not… Continue reading Teaching Children
I have never been praised for my singing voice, except for some mild positive comments. I view this as an entirely good thing. You see, when we get praised for something, particularly when we are young, we may start to build up our self-imagine around that thing. It becomes part of who we are. But… Continue reading Praise
How many times have you told yourself that you're a good mom/dad or a bad mom/dad? You've probably done it a lot--and if you are like me, you are usually saying to yourself that you aren't good enough. The thought of being a good parent or a bad parent is not very useful. First, who… Continue reading Forget about being a good or bad parent . . .
The biggest surprise I've had in becoming an adult is that I'm not very good at this. I guess when I was younger, I expected that I would grow up and be a stable, happy, functioning adult. And while I knew I wouldn't be perfect, I guess I figured that I would at least be… Continue reading We aren’t perfect
We can't have it all. As mothers, sometimes we feel pressure to do everything: work, stay-at-home, go back to school, start a new business, sign our kids up for various programs, do a better job at taking care of our house, whatever. I know a lot of moms who work--and it's really hard to balance… Continue reading Having it all
From a young age, I have been involved in numerous choirs. I like to sing, but I haven't had a lot of praise or criticism related to my ability to sing. I've some mildly positive comments, but that's about it. I am grateful for this. First, I'm not a great singer in the first place.… Continue reading Praise
Heather W. Hoyt 