Parenting is a concept where we act in order to have results. We parent our children so that they can go to bed, do well in school, act in certain ways, and think how we want them to think. But what if we switch from parenting our children to being a loving parent? Instead of… Continue reading Being a Parent
This started with the book 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. One of his rules is, "Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them." He goes on to say that we should discipline our children and teach them social norms. He says: Because children, like other human beings, are not… Continue reading Teaching Children
I have never been praised for my singing voice, except for some mild positive comments. I view this as an entirely good thing. You see, when we get praised for something, particularly when we are young, we may start to build up our self-imagine around that thing. It becomes part of who we are. But… Continue reading Praise
How many times have you told yourself that you're a good mom/dad or a bad mom/dad? You've probably done it a lot--and if you are like me, you are usually saying to yourself that you aren't good enough. The thought of being a good parent or a bad parent is not very useful. First, who… Continue reading Forget about being a good or bad parent . . .
The biggest surprise I've had in becoming an adult is that I'm not very good at this. I guess when I was younger, I expected that I would grow up and be a stable, happy, functioning adult. And while I knew I wouldn't be perfect, I guess I figured that I would at least be… Continue reading We aren’t perfect
We can't have it all. As mothers, sometimes we feel pressure to do everything: work, stay-at-home, go back to school, start a new business, sign our kids up for various programs, do a better job at taking care of our house, whatever. I know a lot of moms who work--and it's really hard to balance… Continue reading Having it all
From a young age, I have been involved in numerous choirs. I like to sing, but I haven't had a lot of praise or criticism related to my ability to sing. I've some mildly positive comments, but that's about it. I am grateful for this. First, I'm not a great singer in the first place.… Continue reading Praise
I don’t really want to do this today. My two-year-old took off his poopy diaper today while I was taking a nap. We are attempting potty training. The diaper was on so that I could take the nap. I woke up because of the screaming baby who wanted attention, but the diaper situation won over… Continue reading My Life as a Mom Today