Recently, I've been learning how to laugh at myself and my life. A few weeks ago, I hit a deer. While on a deer hunt. In a new-to-us minivan that we had literally just replaced the brakes and tires in a few days before. It was so completely unfortunate that I found it hilarious. A… Continue reading Humor in Misfortunes
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Guilt and Apology: Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Have you ever said that you were sorry when you didn't actually do anything wrong? I have. Sometimes I find myself constantly apologize for myself, as if I was a constant inconvenience and never doing as well I need to. Apologizing can be necessary and a really good thing to do. Saying I'm sorry when… Continue reading Guilt and Apology: Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Progress
The first year of homeschooling was difficult for me. It did not always go well. We had some amazing days, but at the end of it, I just felt like a failure. (I wasn't a failure, though. My sister challenged me about why I felt I had failed, and I had to reframe it in… Continue reading Progress
Challenge the voices you hear
I read a few articles lately about people leaving their 9-to-5 jobs in order to live the life of their dreams. And it sounds like a good story. It makes me question for a minute: would I be happy if we were financially independent and self-employed in some creative task? I think the answer is… Continue reading Challenge the voices you hear
Balance of shame and pride
I've been happier lately, and part of the reason is because I stopped shaming myself for not being perfect. I dealt with a lot of shame in my life, feeling that I was never quite good enough: I never did enough when I was homeschooling. I never kept my house clean enough. I never balanced… Continue reading Balance of shame and pride
Teaching Children
This started with the book 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. One of his rules is, "Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them." He goes on to say that we should discipline our children and teach them social norms. He says: Because children, like other human beings, are not… Continue reading Teaching Children
Your Influence Is Enough
I don't have many readers on this blog. I've been blogging for a very long time (since around 2007 or earlier), and I never had a big following. Other people would get lots of comments and interaction. My stats have always been rather low or even nonexistent. I'm very happy about that. I am a… Continue reading Your Influence Is Enough
Choosing majors and careers
I think we can get caught up in trying to find jobs and careers and a life that is perfect for people. There is a myth that you should have a dream and work towards your dream and live happily ever after. That's not how life works. People fail. Dreams crumble. The real world is… Continue reading Choosing majors and careers
Remembering Humility
I love school, but I have to watch myself sometimes. I have always gotten good grades, but those grades are not reflective of my self-worth, my intelligence, how hard I work, or how much I know. I am not better than anyone because of my grades. They don't really mean much at all. Learning in… Continue reading Remembering Humility
Hypocrisy
I was angry with my husband the other day. I really sort of wanted to be angry at him. It didn't last long, because as I was talking, I realized I was being a complete hypocrite. I was doing EXACTLY what I was mad at him for doing. I was holding grudges. I was not… Continue reading Hypocrisy