I have never been praised for my singing voice, except for some mild positive comments. I view this as an entirely good thing. You see, when we get praised for something, particularly when we are young, we may start to build up our self-imagine around that thing. It becomes part of who we are. But… Continue reading Praise
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Seeking help
Often I have pleaded for help from God, but I have often been too proud, too ashamed of my struggles, to reach out to help for others. The other day, I was dealing with a difficulty in my own life and I wanted better solutions. Though I had prayed, fasted, and talked with my husband,… Continue reading Seeking help
dichotomies of life
Sometimes I have a difficult time staying happy. Sometimes I am really happy and I feel blessed and life is so very good. And then other moments, I feel like I'm falling into a hole of melancholy where nothing seems quite right. Some of this is related to being a mother. It's emotionally draining. And there… Continue reading dichotomies of life
Decisions
Sometimes the things you value will conflict, so you have to choose between them. And it's hard sometimes. I've been super indecisive lately, a lot because I really am not sure where I am heading in life. It's also because I really value taking care of my children. But I also value my own personal… Continue reading Decisions
What Life Is
We all have our idea of what life should look like. We're never quite sure where this ideal comes from, but maybe a combination of a lot of things: our childhood, our values, television, social media, the lives of others, etc. Life should be happy. We should be able to live in a clean, single-family house… Continue reading What Life Is
Life is hard and it sucks and I’m really happy about that
I have no idea where I got it into my head that life could be almost perfect. Maybe it was because of social media and advertising and the fake, perfect lives that I saw represented there. Maybe it was because I grew up with a whole lot of stability and without any major challenges (but even… Continue reading Life is hard and it sucks and I’m really happy about that
recognizing the blessings in the fabric of your life
My post yesterday was about not achieving your dreams and how that's okay. But I think we need to realize sometimes how privileged we are to even to be able to dream and set the goals we have in the first place. There are so many people who are merely focused on survival. We often… Continue reading recognizing the blessings in the fabric of your life
when life doesn’t go according to plan
There is this idea that you can set your goals and dreams and go for it and achieve them, but then there are thousands (or millions) of people who have a different reality: they have goals, they work towards them the absolute best they can, and then they fail. A writer gets rejected, not just… Continue reading when life doesn’t go according to plan
Thoughts on marriage and living without my husband
From October to December of this year, I spent most of the time living with myself and my children while my husband worked about four hours away. He came and saw us most weekends, but a lot of the times it was just me. And it was hard. Now that I'm living back with my… Continue reading Thoughts on marriage and living without my husband
Two Thoughts on Economics and Life
1. I was sitting in church, listening to a lesson where we were talking about helping each other and how it is good to receive help. We often find it difficult to be vulnerable and ask for the things that we both need and want. We try to do it all on our own, thinking… Continue reading Two Thoughts on Economics and Life